Before they reach the age of 18, approximately 50% of all children will experience the divorce of their parents. Also, the majority of these parents are going to remarry within a period of five to 10 years. If you are in this situation as a single parent who is starting to date again, what are the “do”s and “don’t”s of this phase?
You should remember that most kids are more aware of what is going on than parents think so unless they are infants, you should keep the information found here in mind.
Don’t Try to Replace the Child’s Other Parent
When you begin to date, don’t ever make the comment that you are searching for a “new daddy” or a “new mommy.” Your child already has two parents and you want him or her to keep a positive relationship with the other parent, regardless of your relationship with him or her.
Do Keep Your Dates at a Distance
You want to make sure that your home doesn’t seem to be a revolving door to your child. Also, you don’t want to feel pressure that you have to get serious with a person faster than you would otherwise because your child seems to like him or her. If you are going out for the evening, just remain vague about what you are doing and who you are going to be with. There is no reason for your child to know the people you are dating.
Do Keep Your Personal Life Personal
As your children get older, they may become more interested in what you are doing, where you are going, and who you are seeing. They may even ask questions about your life in the bedroom. Just remind your child that this is private. Don’t ever discuss anything and remember that it is really not a good idea to have a man or woman sleep over if you aren’t ready to tell your children about him or her.
When you use the tips here, you will be able to handle dating and your kids. While it is a new phase, it is one that you can get through with a bit of common sense.
